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Lisa Marie Presley revealed that her son Benjamin Keough’s suicide ‘detonated her life’ as she detailed the impact of his passing in an essay penned for National Grief Awareness Day. 

Benjamin shot himself in his family’s mansion in July 2020 at the age of 27 after an argument with his girlfriend. An autopsy report revealed he had cocaine and alcohol in his system at the time. 

He had tried to take his life six months earlier, then spent three weeks in rehab four months before he died. Keough had attempted rehab three times before but never completed it.

In an essay for People, 54-year-old Lisa Marie, the only child of Elvis Presley, detailed the aftermath of her son’s death, admitting she’ll ‘never get over it’ and revealing friends stopped contacting her as they expected her to ‘return to normal life.’ 

'My life was detonated by his death': Lisa Marie Presley has said she'll 'never get over' son Benjamin Keough's suicide and reveals friends stopped seeing her in the aftermath

‘My life was detonated by his death’: Lisa Marie Presley has said she’ll ‘never get over’ son Benjamin Keough’s suicide and reveals friends stopped seeing her in the aftermath 

Lisa Marie shares the late Benjamin and daughter Riley Keough with her first husband Danny Keough, who she was married to from 1988 to 1994.

She also shares 13-year-old twins Finley and Harper with Michael Lockwood, whose divorce was finalized last May.

‘Today is “National Grief Awareness Day,” and since I have been living in the horrific reality of its unrelenting grips since my son’s death two years ago, I thought I would share a few things to be aware of in regard to grief for anyone who is interested. If not to help yourself but maybe to help another who is grieving,’ Presley began.

She added it’s not a ‘comfortable subject’ to talk about and can be hard to confront, though she added if any ‘progress’ is to be made, it has to be talked about.

Heartbreaking: Benjamin shot himself in his family's mansion in July 2020 at the age of 27. An autopsy report revealed he had cocaine and alcohol in his system at the time

Heartbreaking: Benjamin shot himself in his family’s mansion in July 2020 at the age of 27. An autopsy report revealed he had cocaine and alcohol in his system at the time

‘I’m sharing my thoughts in the hopes that somehow, we can change that,’ she added, before stating the one fact she has come to learn.

‘Grief does not stop or go away in any sense, a year, or years after the loss. Grief is something you will have to carry with you for the rest of your life, in spite of what certain people or our culture wants us to believe. You do not “get over it,” you do not “move on,” period,’ she revealed.

She added that grief is, ‘incredibly lonely’ and while people show their support in ‘the heat of the moment,’ they soon go back to their own lives, ‘and expect you to do the same.’

She added: ‘If you’re incredibly lucky, less than a handful will remain in contact with you after the first month or so. Unfortunately, that is a cold hard truth for most. 

‘So, if you know someone who lost a loved one, regardless of how long it’s been, please call them to see how they are doing. Go visit them, they will really really appreciate it, more than you know…’

The third fact she acknowledged is that, if the loss was, ‘premature, unnatural, or tragic, you will become a pariah in a sense.’

‘You can feel stigmatized and perhaps judged in some way as to why the tragic loss took place. This becomes magnetized by a million if you are the parent of a child who passed. No matter how old they were. No matter the circumstances,’ she said.

Lonely: She added that grief is, 'incredibly lonely' and while people show their support in 'the heat of the moment,' they soon go back to their own lives, 'and expect you to do the same'

Lonely: She added that grief is, ‘incredibly lonely’ and while people show their support in ‘the heat of the moment,’ they soon go back to their own lives, ‘and expect you to do the same’

Presley said she beats herself up over the loss every day and finding a support group with people who have been through the same ordeal has helped her.

‘Nothing, absolutely NOTHING takes away the pain, but finding support can sometimes help you feel a little bit less alone,’ she said.

She added that she’s dealt with loss and grief since she was nine years old, when her father Elvis Presley passed away, adding her son Benjamin, ‘was so much like his grandfather on so many levels that he actually scared me.’

‘It’s a real choice to keep going, one that I have to make every single day and one that is constantly challenging to say the least… But I keep going for my girls,’ she said.

‘I keep going because my son made it very clear in his final moments that taking care of his little sisters and looking out for them were on the forefront of his concerns and his mind. He absolutely adored them and they him,’ she added.

‘My and my three daughters’ lives as we knew it were completely detonated and destroyed by his death. We live in this every. Single. Day,’ she said.

Loss: She added that she's dealt with loss and grief since she was nine years old, when her father Elvis Presley passed away, adding her son Benjamin, 'was so much like his grandfather'

Loss: She added that she’s dealt with loss and grief since she was nine years old, when her father Elvis Presley passed away, adding her son Benjamin, ‘was so much like his grandfather’

Lisa added that she shared all of this to raise awareness about grief and loss and she hopes her essay, ‘helps someone who is suffering as I and my children suffer.’

‘Ask them how they’re doing, ask them to talk about their person, yes! We DO want to talk about them. That’s how we keep them alive in our hearts, that’s how they don’t get forgotten, that is what keeps us alive as well. 

‘And do me a favor, don’t tell them that “you can’t imagine” their pain. The truth is, oh yes you can, you just don’t want to,’ she said.

‘For help and info on what to say, visit Grief.com and show up. Written with all of my love and my pain, most sincerely ~LMP,’ she concluded.

For help and support in the US call the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline on 988. If you are in the UK contact Samaritans on 116 123  

Riley said: 'My and my three daughters' lives as we knew it were completely detonated and destroyed by his death. We live in this every. Single. Day,' (L to R) Michael Lockwood, Ben and Lisa in 2010)

Riley said: ‘My and my three daughters’ lives as we knew it were completely detonated and destroyed by his death. We live in this every. Single. Day,’ (L to R) Michael Lockwood, Ben and Lisa in 2010) 

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Originally posted 2022-08-31 07:28:55.